J is for Justice

Standing on a bridge in Selma, Alabama, March 9th, 1965, this could go either way. There could be violence, persistence, playing out for the camera and the people gathered. At the head of the group, the leader, one charismatic preacher pauses. He doesn’t stop exactly, he pauses. This isn’t over.  You feel it in the […]

I is for Independence

I get up in the morning and look in the mirror while I brush my teeth, and oh man my hair is doing that thing it does. I hate the way my hair looks in the morning. Hey, self, I tell myself, pausing mid brush, white foam on my lips. You are incredible. You got […]

H is for Hummingbirds

Sometimes, all you need is that one thing to keep you going. For some, it’s a loved one, human or animal.  For some, it’s religion, their belief in some invisible guy in the clouds. Whatever works for you man. My greatest inspiration, by far, has been this guy who lives to tend his houseplants. No, […]

G is for Grandparents

  The best/worth thing about being born into a polyamorous family with five shared grandparents AND plenty of kids to go around? It’s all those complicated family connections. They say it takes a village to raise a family, and that’s exactly what I have. This can be good in some ways and complicated in others. […]

FF: F is for Friends

Title: True Love I’ve finally figured out what true love is. It’s opening up the refrigerator door at work and finding a wrapped sandwich with your name on it. At first, you’re mad. Whoever stole your sandwich yesterday decided to rewrap it and put it back? Then, you open it and find a fresh sandwich, […]

E is for Everyone

 In Illas, on the edge of the crystalline sea, Brother Cadfall bows his head as sisters of the Order of the Three make their prayer over him. Their fingers weave the sacred spell as they speak, and violet ribbons rush through the air. Violet ribbons snap into existence, appearing from everywhere. Earlier this day, Cadfall’s […]

D is for Demiromantic

Man, this one will be awkward, knocking down that fourth wall for a minute. I thought you should know that I am in love with you, reader, but don’t take that personally. I am asexual, polyromantic, panromantic, demiromantic. That means I fall in love with people all the time, any time I feel a deep […]

C is for Caretaker

 I wouldn’t trade a single day we had together. Folding up your clothes, placing them in cardboard boxes, tears well up in my eyes. It’s just me in a small room on the first floor of the nursing home. I’m waiting for someone to say something incredibly stupid, how I can move on with my […]

A-Z Visiting Day

Whew, so March was a bit crazy, so I am now playing catchup with my A-Z posts (that I absolutely said I would have all done and scheduled before April – and WHEN DID APRIL HAPPEN????) Seriously, is it actually April? Every year, April sneaks in suspiciously with many people saying very untrue things and […]

B is for Biromantic

 I married the woman of my dreams today. It was the perfect day, sunshine in the park, our minister a close friend who got one of those low-cost “ordinations” just to officiate for us. Everyone clapped, and it all felt so real. This is actually happening, real. Then, one of your work friends, Susan, came […]